How To Improve Your Self-Confidence

Having confidence in yourself is the key to success in life. I'll give you some tips based on experience so you can work on this aspect of your personality. Because you can be assured that it can be improved, and a lot. Obviously, self-confidence has a lot to do with self-esteem, so you'll work both aspects at the same time.

Why is Self-Confidence so important?

First of all, it is clear that trusting more in yourself allows you to take more actions, not get stuck in doubt, and therefore, help you achieve your vital goals. In addition, you gain quality of life because you spend less time worrying about things.

But what seems most important to me regarding self-confidence is the social aspect. People do not follow the person who says the most logical or smartest things. They usually follow the person who shows the most confidence. A person who shows security seems more attractive as a possible partner. It also has more possibilities of being hired, with equal curriculum. And of course, it convinces more in any kind of situations.

For all those reasons, if you feel that you can improve your self-confidence, it's worthwhile to continue reading this article.

Strive to be more sociable

You saw that in the previous paragraph, he emphasized the social benefits of self-confidence. Well, logically, interacting with different people is one of the ways to improve your social skills and that helps improve your self-confidence.

I give you an example. One of the most common limitations to our confidence is the fear of ridicule. We all know it. It is this fear of going out to dance because you are a little clumsy, or to speak in a language that you still do not master very well, or to speak in public, etc. Well, the more you interact with other people and particularly with groups, the more opportunities you will have to overcome those facets of fear of ridicule.

It is something progressive, but if you strive to meet many people and be in different social situations practicing various activities, you will improve your self-confidence. You can try those things: dance, go to a karaoke, go to a language exchange, among many other things. And above all, meet new peoples.

To have more security, it is good to have a greater knowledge and domain on some issues. But here is an important nuance, and perhaps counter intuitive. If you have some insecurities from the things you do not know, you might be tempted to learn more about those things, and it would not be wrong to expand your knowledge. But, what usually works best is to reinforce the areas for which you already have a certain domain . In other words, become an expert in some matters.

Why? Simply because it is better to have more domain than anyone on a particular subject than to have a low or medium knowledge in many subjects. If you are an expert on something, you will have very little doubt about it, and you will show confidence and confidence every time this topic is discussed. On the contrary, if you know little about many things, immediately you will have doubts because you will lack information, and it will generate insecurity.

Being in the moment

Normally, lack of confidence is characterized by an amazing ability to imagine what can happen badly, also called fear. It's the typical "what happens if that?" Well, the vast majority of those thoughts are totally unproductive. The solution is very simple: simply ignore them and focus on the present. That is to say: you do not think about what can go wrong, do what you have come to do the best you can, and that's it. It's too late for doubts. If it goes wrong, you will study the causes later. But it does not have to go wrong.

If you are in the moment and you forget about worries, you are much more likely to show security, because you will be focused on what you are doing, and not distracted by negative thoughts about inconclusive possibilities.

Think about how good you are

Choose. You can be devoting most of your thoughts to things that are not going well for you, what is missing in your life, and feel bad about it, or you can focus your thoughts on how good you are, on the achievements you have had, and use them as a motivation to keep improving, and achieve your goals. That choice is fundamental, because it largely determines your self-confidence.

You must choose if you build on the positive or if you let the negative mine your confidence. I insist, it's a choice. It may not be easy to realize, but if you make the effort to recognize your thought patterns, you can identify when they are not positive and force you to change your point of view. With training is achieved.

You do not set too ambitious goals

The longest crossing begins with one step. The best way to lose confidence and discourage yourself is to set unrealistic goals. I'm talking about goals in your personal and professional life, not self-confidence goals, but both are related.

If you set a goal too ambitious, the most logical thing is that you do not achieve it. Then, this failure will make you doubt your abilities and will damage your self-confidence. On the contrary, if you are putting more attainable goals, the most logical thing is that you will achieve them, and every time you have one of those small successes, you will feel more secure. In the end, you may reach much more ambitious goals, passing through intermediary steps.